sticks and stone may break my bones...and words can hurt too, shit.

it's funny when girls comment on their man's photo saying something blatantly mean...knowing it's a great picture too.
like "you think you look cute, huh? well you're not! haaaa!" or "hahaha...look at your smile. how embarrassing!" or "hmm...why have i never noticed that one eye is bigger than the other? lmao! we may have to rethink some things" or just blatantly commenting something nice on everyone in the picture but him - meanwhile all the other comments are just super complimentary.....yeah...we've all seen it. i must say i've been a victim to the uncontrollable-comment-hate myself. i didn't realize how common it was though. i think it's because once we, as THE female, set up camp on a dudes life, we get comfortable. meanwhile, there are the ladies out there still working to get a certain dude to give them attention, so they're still in the phase where they have to shoot compliments and smiley faces to let dudes know how sweet and nice they are..and hoping something will come of that..well since we're already 'in there' we show that by doing the exact opposite and let our man know we like him by telling him how "retarded" he looks....*smh*

so i was trying to think why we just turn so ...rudely mean all of a sudden?? so i thought...and thought...and it didn't take much thinking for me to realize that it's kind of like our subliminal way of claiming our territory. when you see a girl comment something not so nice on a dude's picture, another female can only assume "oh, she must already have a comfortable and established relationship with this guy.." otherwise, she is just being completely out of pocket...

so i thought and thought some more...and guys (meaning ladies) that's so rude of us! i've seen incidences of these sorts get out of hand...with picture...after picture...after picture...yeeeeeahh....
i mean, i understand what we're trying to do (notice how i'm saying 'we')..kind of like a flirting type thing...but after a while, you're just being a little extra. i mean, guys have feelings too and for you to just shit on something they may be taking pride in or that may be boosting their confidence (or lack there of), it's just kind wrong after a while. (of course the occasional mean/sarcastic joke is fair flirting game), but why can't we as girlfriends or main girls...or whatever your relationship status may be..shoot an "aww, babe, you look sooo nice!!" or " i'm so glad you're mine. :)" or maybe even a "DAMN BABY! you look hella fine right here. i just wanna.....nvm im gonna just try to keep it PG13! lol" lmao...no? too much? yeah...that last one's not really my preference, but some girls can pull it off ( more power to ya'll) and some guys may really like that...but overall, you get my point. and as women we wouldnt want our man just trashing our photos for the public to see like that, especially because girls tend to take a lot of pride in their 'cute' pictures. it gets embarrassing after a while like:

friend: "damn lil mak, isnt' that your man? why is he being so shady on your pictures??" ...
makensy: "oh...um...yeah, ha...nah, guys...he's just...kidding....he's really a sweet guy...he likes me dont worry...he's joking" ...
more friends join in: "...oh...ok....*exchanging looks*" ...

remember, showing affection is a way of subliminally claiming your 'territory' too. lol, you can flirt and still be nice...
i know that we, both men and women, just have this "fear" for lack of a better term of blending in with the rest of the people tryna holler when we're supposed to be held above that.we want our presence to be known, recognized and respected. of course, that's not much to ask. but don't beat down your man/woman's self esteem in the process. whether they know you're joking or not, people like for others to see how loved they are...it's way more of a turn on than claiming the shady-hate-commenter all the time :)