having gone to an all-girls school for seven years of my life, in addition to being a female myself, i consider myself fairly knowledgeable about the subject of how girls work. Lately i've noticed quite a few girls claiming to not have female friends because they've chosen to live that way. no. even the most masculine of girls will have a group of dedicated female friends that will have their back no matter what - if they don't, see it as a red flag.
if a woman, especially at this 'young adult' age, doesnt have a solid group of female friends, i would advise you to see it as a flaw in the lady herself. most females who claim to not have friends because they don't support someone's lifestyle, or they don't like the way their friends behave or claim to simply 'not like girls' ...it's usually because their core friends rejected them at some point in life, and in actuality, it's the group of friends who don't support the lifestyle of the one girl -- normally, she's just an untrustworthy individual. now i'm sure many people feel that groups of female friends are just drama in themselves, but girls are intuitive and don't hesitate to act (often times, not verbally) if someone is no longer on their good side.
as a guy, think of it like this, what are your girls priorities? is it you? because friends always come first in a girls life who has a set of genuine friends.
i have fallen into the trap of befriending those who are often ostracized and isolated (more often than not, it's because i'm asked to do so). however, it doesn't take long to realize why certain people don't have many friends in the first place. you can't hold these people completely responsible for their actions though, more often than not, it's deeper than the fact that they lie a few times or didn't come through here or there. People who don't have a core group of friends are usually to self-indulged to provide the mutual caring of one another that friendship entails. Friends are not perfect, don't expect them to be, but anyone who says fuck a real friendship has some type of internal, often unstable and/or insecurity issue.
how a person treats their friends says a loooot about them. so take note.
i always joke about saying i don't have any female friends, but the reality is, i do. they're just off making something of themselves and we just so happen to be spread out all over the country. but at the end of the day, i have a core group of best friends who will have my back no matter what. and honestly, that's one of the most priceless and amazing blessings God has given me. I wouldn't be half the person i am today without the women i've had by my side throughout the last 10+ years....and i know half the heartless females in this world wouldn't be so bitchy if they had friends they could turn to, and support them.
bros before hoes. trust me, it's almost never worth it.
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